Jan 042011

Even though I’ve never seen an episode of Star Trek (and never will), please excuse the misleading reference.  What I’m referring to is my three year old son.  To say he’s a little bit clingy is a gross understatement.  I’ve said it on numerous occasions that I swear he’d crawl back into my womb if he could.  If I get up to go into the other room, he’s there.  I still can’t go to the bathroom in peace and he won’t let anyone hold his hand, carry him or put him in & out of the car….unless it’s me.

Anyone that knows me, knows that I’m big on personal space and of course, I never deny my kids any lovin’ , but when I’m cooking in the kitchen and I have a little head leaning on my fanny the whole time, it gets to be a little much sometimes.

He’s always hanging off of me, kissing & hugging me or just wanting to sit on my lap.  I never deny him (because most of the time, unless I’m in the middle of something, I love it), but what I’m really afraid of is that I’m cultivating one of those creepy dudes that’s 40 and still lives in his mother’s basement.

Now before you ask, he goes to preschool two mornings a week (without me) and he goes to his dad’s a few times a week without issue.  Well, ok, there is a small issue every time I drop him off at preschool, but I’m told he’s fine as soon as I walk out the door.  He’s going to preschool three mornings a week in September and we have full day kindergarten in my town, so the year after I think he’s going to be in for a rude awakening.

I’m hoping he’ll be over this by then, but I was wondering if anyone else had an uber clingy little one and how you dealt with it?

  15 Responses to “I Have A Cling-On!”

  1. My 14 month old son seems to be clinging a lot. Especially after I’m off with him for long weekends. I was off for three days at Christmas and at New Years. I dropped him off at my mom’s yesterday morning and he didn’t want me to leave. I got home last night and was cooking dinner. He popped a squat right beside me in the kitchen floor and started playing with his toys. He’s under my feet everywhere I go. Sometimes I get frustrated by I try my hardest not to. It’s hard!

  2. Ummm – Yeah – It’s sounds exactly like my youngest and he’s 5! He does fine at school, but when I’m home it’s all me. Daddy doesn’t get to do anything. He still sneaks into our bed in the middle of the night, just to get some snuggle time in. I’m like you, unless I’m trying to get something done, or spend some one on one time with the other kids, I don’t usually mind him being so clingy. I think they’ll grow out of it eventually. I never gave a thought about the creepy 40 year-old. Nah, not going to happen. Just a case of being the youngest…..I hope

  3. I’d like to comment of the post above by Kelly M….her youngest is all about ME too. If I’m in the kitchen getting dinner started, I hear from the other room, “I need you. I want to snuggle with you” He wants to climb back into my womb and he didn’t even come from there!! I think he’s just a snuggle bug, like your little guy. I take full advantage of it now because, before you know it, he won’t even let you give him a hug or kiss when you drop him off for school.

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  5. I’m sure it’s hard to hear him cry when you leave but you would have to hope that someday soon he’ll get used to the idea? I have three boys myself and didn’t have this problem. Maybe that doesn’t say much about me? Sheesh! Following you from YaYa’s!!!

  6. Lol, I love that you’re concerned with raising a 40 year old basment dweller! I worry about that too but Babe isn’t very clingy, just when he wants to be. I have no help but wanted you to know I stopped by!

  7. Too funny! Never had the problem…2 girls. They have their issues (don’t we all;) but not this one.
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  8. My son was like that. As he got older he didn’t physically cling anymore, but he still stuck near me and was very hesitant to venture out in the world.

  9. My kids get clingy in cycles. I’ve yet to be able to figure it out, other than continuing to have them spend some time apart from me.

  10. I had a cling-on boy exactly like you describe and I just went along with it for the most part. He’s 6.5 now and is still clingy to some extent. He still loves to snuggle with me and follow me around. Sometimes when I leave the room, I’ll count in my head how many seconds go by until he saunters in to be in the same room as me. He’s much less insistent about it now – much more casual. And, he’s much more willing to let my husband be the source of love and snuggles.

    But, just wanted to assure you that my cling-on did absolutely fine going off to kindergarten and even camp last year. He swears he’ll live with me forever, so maybe I will end up with a 40-year-old living in my basement! But mostly I just try to enjoy it now because I’m pretty darn sure that when he’s 15, he’ll want nothing to do with me and the snuggles will be few and far between.

  11. My youngest (1) does the same thing. I love it but sometimes it can be really frustrating. My oldest (10) was never as clingy when she was the same age, but both the wife and I were working during that time.

    Thankfully the wife is considering going back to work, part-time. I think our youngest needs some opportunity to work on self-soothing.


  12. My Patsy, before she went missing, was always my tail. She’d follow me room to room and even if I told her to stay in the living room, she’d be peeking into the bedroom at me. If she saw me getting dressed to go outside, she start whining. Then she got stolen or lost. The end.

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  14. I don’t have to deal with that quite yet, but I understand your concern. You don’t want to raise one of “those” guys, the creepers. But I do think it’s kind of sweet at this age, and I imagine that he will start feeling less clingy when he goes to kindergarten. I guess time will tell. Please update! And I have to confess, I am a Star Trek fan. Don’t un-follow me. Ha!

  15. Peanut is exactly the same way and she is 5! As soon as I get home from work and sit on the couch she is on top of me. She can’t just sit next to me she has to sit on me. And the kisses and the hugs and everything else. Now don’t get me wrong, I love it because my step-son has never been affectionate, but it can get slightly annoying after a while. But then I have to tell myself that soon enough she won’t want anything to do with me so I have to cherish these moments. But sometimes I want to just sit by myself. She also insists on sneaking into our rooms in the middle of the night and cuddling up with me. I have no idea that she is there until I wake up with a knee in my back or she is pulling my hair for comfort.

    She even was following me around the other day and when I asked her what she was doing, she said well I am following you around. Duh!